Some of you are not “over-thinkers”.  You live in the present and take life as it comes.  You are a complete and utter mystery to me.

You have probably never had a “pre-conversation” in your head….where you play out an entire scene in your mind (including dialogue) for a scenario that may never happen in reality.  But it might, and you want to be ready.

You probably never lie awake at night not only re-living the past, but also creating alternate and more favorable endings.  Because if only you had said or done something differently, life would have turned out so much better.

You probably never get brain-strain from simultaneously regretting the past and worrying about the future.

Humph.  Must be nice.

The pathetic thing is that the root cause of over-thinking is also its’ curse.  We are desperate to do or say exactly the right thing in any scenario.  We want to be fully present and aware and on the ball when the time comes, to ensure we will do what is right and have no regrets.  But over-thinkers are almost NEVER in the present.

You see the dilemma.

For those of us who are over-thinkers…useless multi-taskers of the brain…I have found something that helps.

Repeat this mantra after me:  BE WHERE YOU ARE.

The next time you find yourself thinking about a million things at once, stop yourself and just say the words “be where you are”.

When these words come out of your mouth, listen to them and obey their command.

Breathe.  Look around.  Smell the air.  Listen to whatever sounds you can hear.  Just be quiet for a moment and focus only on what your 5 senses can absorb.  Is there something beautiful within your field of sight?  Can you smell or hear something that makes you smile?  When you take a few deep and cleansing breaths, do you feel your heart slowing down and saying “thank you”?

When you spend a lot of time in your head over-thinking, focusing on everything except where you are, you are showing great disrespect for your body.

Your body is only allowed to experience the present.  It has no choice.

Yet it keeps chugging along, doing its job, taking in as much information from the 5 senses that it can for you to enjoy and appreciate.  And what do you do?  You disregard all of that ongoing work because you would rather be focused on a random Thursday in Grade 8 when that person you had a crush on rejected you.

How rude!

How ridiculous!

I can’t stop you from being an over-thinker.  That is up to you.  It takes a lot of work and self-reflection, and you can’t afford my counseling fees.

But I can remind you of the mantra:


Use it.

Trust me, it will work.

Now shut off your brain and go find something nice to smell.