Make sure you want to `Be a Parent`, not just `Have Kids`.

There is a difference.

What do you think the difference is?

Have you ever thought about it?

One is about action, one is about ownership.

I often hear the statement “I can’t wait to have kids”, which bugs me because it sounds like something they will possess, show off, and polish until shiny.

Like a “statement purse” or a car.

And when it comes down to it, some people really feel this way…if they are honest with themselves.

They don’t see their kids as Adults-In-Training.  They don’t see them as people at all.  They see their children as something to groom and brag about.  A status symbol – as long as the children are behaving accordingly, looking a certain way and sharing their views and opinions.

I pity those poor children.

On the other side, there are those who say they can’t wait to “be parents”.  Upon hearing this, I sigh with relief.

These people get it.

They know that raising kids is not easy:  it is something that requires constant on-the-job training, flexibility, a sense of humour, and being truly engaged in their children’s development.

They know that their role will be “to parent”.

To excitedly raise children into adulthood (and beyond).

It is a verb.  An exhausting, stressful, non-stop yet joyous verb.

Before getting pregnant….I beg you…please ask yourself:  If you are being honest with yourself, do you want to “have kids” or “be a parent”?

I’ll let you in on a little secret: Option Number Two is the better one.

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