This is another mantra for you.

The next time you come across someone who is upset, show some respect.

Has a coworker ever been distressed over something that seems insignificant to you?

Listening to them, did you just want to roll your eyes and say “Oh, get over it.  It’s not worth getting upset over”?

Have you come across a teenager who is upset over a situation that seems trivial to you?

Did you dismiss them?

I can go on, but you get the point.

Forget about whether the situation would be upsetting or important to YOU.

If it’s important to THEM, then it’s important. 

You only have this moment, when you have the opportunity to either show kindness or walk away from it.

You don’t even have to give advice.  Just listen.  Sometimes the best thing you can say is simply: “I can see this has upset you a lot.  What are you going to do next?”

This lesson is especially important for parents…I can’t stress it enough.

If your child runs up to you excitedly because they found a bug or crying because someone at school hurt their feelings…your reaction will mean the world to them.  Put your arm around them in either case, and share in their joy or sadness.

Show them that it isn’t just important to them.  It is important to you too.

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