The common scenario in movies or television: a couple are out in public and she catches him looking at another woman.  SLAP!

It bugs me when women get upset over their spouse looking another woman, or vice versa.

(the same applies for same sex couples)

Some of their reaction is based on insecurity, and I get that.  But the rest of it is based on a ridiculous rule: once you are with me, you shouldn’t even LOOK at anyone else.


Beauty is beauty.

To tell someone to stop noticing and looking at objects of beauty is an almost impossible request.

I cannot tell someone to avoid looking at a beautiful person any more than I can restrict them from enjoying beautiful art, music, theatre, food, flowers, architecture, scenery…

Beauty is all around us and comes in all forms.  We should appreciate it more!

My only challenge to you is to look for beauty in people of all ages, shapes and sizes.  Try to see the beauty in who they are – not just how they look.


Of course…if your mate is constantly “appreciating” other people’s beauty yet never mentioning yours…that is a problem.

It is also if a problem if they aren’t just looking – they are leering – and making you feel as though they would actually approach the object of beauty if only you weren’t there…


I can’t ask my spouse to stop looking at beautiful people, because I notice them too.

At the end of the day, he is still the most beautiful thing in the world to me.