It is common to hear the comment that people don’t know their neighbors anymore – communities ‘just aren’t what they used to be’.

Why do you think that is?

It’s because we are busy.  And tired.

A new friendship means work.  You visit with them, they visit with you, items are shared or borrowed, support is given in a crisis, and lines of communication are constantly open.

Years ago, this was seen as a good thing.

Now it just seems like a huge investment….an investment of time and energy that we don’t have.

When our lives are overscheduled and we constantly feel exhausted, it just doesn’t seem worth the effort.

So we keep to ourselves and act civil yet distant towards our neighbors.

However this means that we don’t get to know them or get a sense of them.  We don’t know if they are safe or dangerous.  We don’t know if we could go to them in an emergency.

You can’t have it both ways: if you don’t know your neighbors, it is probably your fault.