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Once your kids reach a certain age, swearing and profanity might become an issue.

Maybe they hear it more in movies, on tv or at school.

Maybe they use it themselves.

Maybe they hear it from you.

It might be a good idea to sit down with them and talk about the power of profanity.

Here is what you can say:

“Language can be very powerful.  If you know the right words to say, you can calm someone who is angry, soothe someone who is sad, convince people to agree with you, or stand up for yourself.

Swear words are a part of our language, and they get thrown around a lot, but most people don’t know about their power.

Many people like to swear a lot.  They don’t just say them when they are angry….they say them even when they are having casual conversations.  They get used to saying them all of the time, and you get used to hearing it out of their mouth all of the time.

And what happens?  You get desensitized to the swearing.  You start to see the person as less smart because they can’t think of other words to use….they just swear all of the time.

They might think they are being cool or edgy or that they are making a strong impression on you…or they might not even realize they are swearing so much!

Whatever the reason, using swears doesn’t make them sound more powerful – they end up sounding kinda dumb.

If you want to be more effective, use your swear words sparingly.

Have you ever heard someone curse that almost never does?

You automatically think “Wow, they never swear, this must be a big deal.  They must feel very strongly about this.”

And it makes you pay attention.

I suggest you do the same.

There are some places where you really shouldn’t swear at all, because it will get you in trouble or lose the respect of others – like some workplaces or wherever small children are present.

But if you find yourself in a situation where you are really upset, angry or otherwise worked up, you want to swear and you think that using a swear is appropriate, then choose it wisely and go for it.

People will listen, because they will know that swearing is something you don’t normally do.

And you know what?  You don’t even need to swear at all if you don’t want to.

There are so many other words that you can use – and the more you know, the smarter you will sound.

Knowledge is power….and knowledge of language can be very powerful indeed.”